If you’re like a lot of men facing a divorce or are divorced, you might be waffling along, looking for answers. One of the things you have to keep in mind is to have self acceptance. Many of us end up feeling guilt and shame, as if to say, “I should be handling this”, “I shouldn’t be this upset”, or “what’s wrong with me?”.
Let that go. Go easy on yourself. Quit telling yourself you need to be something other than where you’re at right now.
That acceptance will help you navigate this rough time. If you fight it, you will be in for a long haul. You will have an internal war. This is a time where you need to be good to yourself. You’re probably having thoughts about what your friends think and what your family thinks about your situation. You need to put that aside and focus on you. You can’t control other people’s thoughts anyway. One way to think of this is like a computer that is slow and the web pages aren’t loading. You need to reboot the computer. Right now, you need to reboot. Being in reboot mode, you won’t be at full capacity and that’s okay. You’re in safe made and you need to give yourself time to stop blaming yourself and get back to being you.
Start making small steps to feeling better. The way to do that is to be aware. This is a process.
One of the best things you can do is to change your state. Doing so can help you heal and get along as fast as possible. Take up that hobby you’ve always wanted to do, take that acting class, write that book, finish that teaching degree, hit the gym or you can workout with us.
If you’re a divorced man or going through a divorce and you’re looking for some hope, a workout will do you wonders. Come workout with us at F3 Lehigh Valley and get your mind off things for a bit. Some of the men in our group have been through a devastating divorce and they can likely help you cope. We are located in Lehigh Valley, PA, but we’re a nationwide community of men. F3 is not just a men’s workout group, our mission is to make men better. Come join us for a Men’s workout.
You can always contact us if you have any questions.
